Orgasmic Birth is to give birth with and in love, to move through labor with power, and to honor the emotional and physical heights that labor holds.
I believe it is every woman’s human right to have a pleasurable birth.
I won’t stop until we heal our broken maternity care system, and the good news is that we are starting to make and see changes!
Joyous, sensuous, and revolutionary, Orgasmic Birth brings the ultimate challenge to our cultural myths by inviting viewers to see the emotional, spiritual, and physical heights attainable through birth.
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In our book Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth Experience, Elizabeth Davis and I define Orgasmic Birth as:
“Broad enough to include those who describe birth as ecstatic and specific enough to give voice to those who actually feel the contractions of orgasm and climax at the moment of delivery.
Many of our interviewees spoke of astounding pressure and sensation in the vagina as birth approached, followed by a flood of release and emotion as the baby emerged.
Whenever a woman can look back on these moments with joy, when the physical and emotional aspects of birth are fully experienced as pleasurable, we call this orgasmic birth.”
When I was filming what would become “Orgasmic Birth: The Best Kept Secret” documentary, I witnessed this firsthand, through many beautiful, pleasurable, powerful, and orgasmic births.
The original concept for the film was to show that birth can be an empowering and pleasurable experience, but what surprised me was when the laboring mamas were able to birth in their power, surrounded by love, support, care and respect, that their births were dramatically more pleasurable too.
I had witnessed many births as a doula – I knew that this was possible, but the wave of pleasurable and even orgasmic births that took place during my filming process was extraordinary. When it was time to name the film – I knew we had to make a bold statement, that birth, under the right circumstances was an ORGASMIC EXPERIENCE!
Orgasmic Birth can be the blissful waves in between contractions. One can enter this altered state and ride the waves of sensation, expanding into pleasure, and increasing sexual energy and the hormones consuming one’s being. Riding the wave creates a peaceful, total body sensation that lingers as energy is exchanged between you, your baby, and your partner.
Birthing in love is a state of filling your entire body and being with oxytocin, the love hormone, and surrendering to the power within. Dr. Sarah Buckley writes in Ecstatic Birth: The Hormonal Blueprint of Labor “Such high levels (of beta-endorphins) help the laboring woman to transmute pain and enter the altered state of consciousness that characterizes an undisturbed birth.”
I believe it is every woman’s human right to have a pleasurable birth. It all comes down to how you define it.
I define my orgasmic birth as a heightened sensation – that moment of release and feeling your baby slide from your body into your arms. I think that every birth has that orgasmic element.
Orgasmic Birth is to give birth with and in love, to move through labor with power and to honor the emotional and physical heights that labor holds.
Childbirth is an opportunity to experience the extraordinary miracle of bringing new life into the world and Orgasmic Birth provides a language and the conditions to reclaim and honor that miracle.
Labor and birth takes women to the depth of the unknown, to face their fears, while pushing through the intensity – releasing and riding the waves of our body that with the right conditions and comfort can bring women to the peaks of joy, pleasure, and hormonal ecstasy.
I believe in and trust that the body that grows a baby knows how to birth the baby. Childbirth provides opportunities to face fear, to journey to the depths and back, to find pleasure and experience what I believe nature intended – an Orgasmic Birth filled with love.
In our book Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth Experience, Elizabeth Davis and I define Orgasmic Birth as:
“Broad enough to include those who describe birth as ecstatic and specific enough to give voice to those who actually feel the contractions of orgasm and climax at the moment of delivery.
Many of our interviewees spoke of astounding pressure and sensation in the vagina as birth approached, followed by a flood of release and emotion as the baby emerged.
Whenever a woman can look back on these moments with joy, when the physical and emotional aspects of birth are fully experienced as pleasurable, we call this orgasmic birth.”
When I was filming what would become “Orgasmic Birth: The Best Kept Secret” documentary, I witnessed this firsthand, through many beautiful, pleasurable, powerful, and orgasmic births.
The original concept for the film was to show that birth can be an empowering and pleasurable experience, but what surprised me was when the laboring mamas were able to birth in their power, surrounded by love, support, care and respect, that their births were dramatically more pleasurable too.
I had witnessed many births as a doula – I knew that this was possible, but the wave of pleasurable and even orgasmic births that took place during my filming process was extraordinary. When it was time to name the film – I knew we had to make a bold statement, that birth, under the right circumstances was an ORGASMIC EXPERIENCE!
Orgasmic Birth can be the blissful waves in between contractions. One can enter this altered state and ride the waves of sensation, expanding into pleasure, and increasing sexual energy and the hormones consuming one’s being. Riding the wave creates a peaceful, total body sensation that lingers as energy is exchanged between you, your baby, and your partner.
Birthing in love is a state of filling your entire body and being with oxytocin, the love hormone, and surrendering to the power within. Dr. Sarah Buckley writes in Ecstatic Birth: The Hormonal Blueprint of Labor “Such high levels (of beta-endorphins) help the laboring woman to transmute pain and enter the altered state of consciousness that characterizes an undisturbed birth.”
I believe it is every woman’s human right to have a pleasurable birth. It all comes down to how you define it.
I define my orgasmic birth as a heightened sensation – that moment of release and feeling your baby slide from your body into your arms. I think that every birth has that orgasmic element.
Orgasmic Birth is to give birth with and in love, to move through labor with power and to honor the emotional and physical heights that labor holds.
Childbirth is an opportunity to experience the extraordinary miracle of bringing new life into the world and Orgasmic Birth provides a language and the conditions to reclaim and honor that miracle.
Labor and birth takes women to the depth of the unknown, to face their fears, while pushing through the intensity – releasing and riding the waves of our body that with the right conditions and comfort can bring women to the peaks of joy, pleasure, and hormonal ecstasy.
I believe in and trust that the body that grows a baby knows how to birth the baby. Childbirth provides opportunities to face fear, to journey to the depths and back, to find pleasure and experience what I believe nature intended – an Orgasmic Birth filled with love.
I’ve spent the last 30 years traveling the world as a childbirth educator, doula and doula instructor. My film has been screened throughout the world and the movement of pleasurable birth is growing.
Now I want to share with you all the essential knowledge that I’ve picked up along the way – my secrets, my tools, and the inspiration for my work.
Right at your fingertips you can now access all the information you need through the film, my books, and my online childbirth courses (both for parents and doulas).
I can’t explain exactly why I was always fascinated with birth, but ever since I was a young girl, I loved listening to the birth stories of my grandmother and great-grandmother.
When I was a teen, I volunteered as a candy-striper at a hospital in hopes I could peek inside labor and delivery, and I eventually went to college for nursing solely to be able to practice in labor and delivery.
During my time in nursing school, I quickly became exposed to the medicalization in the field and became so disillusioned that I left college to become a ski instructor, followed by a career as an international flight attendant. I thought this career detour would lead me somewhere else and at first, it did.
I eventually enrolled into McGill University in Montreal. As a means to continue my exploration of the world, and so that I could travel for free, I participated in an educational exchange in Sussex, England with a work/study program teaching skiing to children in Scotland.
Eventually, my journey came full circle.
I graduated from McGill with a Degree in Education and I was eight months pregnant with my first son.
My rekindled passion for birth took form during that pregnancy, and my preparation for the birth finally brought all the stories and passion I had about it into action.
You can hear my birth story inside my digital courses – so I won’t spoil it here, but I will tell you that I took the time to educate myself when I was pregnant. I knew that I had the power within to give birth the way that I had intended to and I was determined not to let anyone put me down physically or emotionally.
After my son’s birth, I started to reflect upon my experience in birth and began to question why so many people accept our broken system as it was and go along with the assembly line of generic interventions, wanting to trust the process yet feeling inside that something was wrong with it.
I was inspired to help others reclaim the power and intimacy of birth, and so I became a childbirth educator. My role as a classroom educator evolved, and soon families began to invite me to attend their births.
I quickly learned that I had become a doula, and was part of the beginnings of the doula movement.
I became one of the first DONA approved birth and postpartum doula trainers teaching parents, doulas, midwives, doctors, and nurses around the world.
I have learned that by taking away the power of birth, and by putting women in beds and hospital gowns, stripping away their ability to move, dance, and find joy in childbirth, we have not only made birth more difficult and more painful, but sadly, we are missing out on an amazing opportunity to birth ourselves and our babies with respect, dignity, love, pleasure, and creating a heightened physical and emotional experience – one that I call Orgasmic!
What I have experienced while attending births has been both challenging and yet filled with so much joy.
The media and often medical teams only ever talk about pain, which causes fear and perpetuates more pain.
There is love, joy, ecstasy, release, power, bliss, and waves of expansion in birth. I hear sounds, movements and expressions that make even partners smile and say, “I recognize that look and that sound” – confirming that birth sounds sexual.
Midwives around the world have long known that birth is a part of a woman’s sexual life.
How can it be that we move a baby through our uterus, cervix, vagina, vulva, open our labia, and the baby hits the G-spot, and we don’t ever talk about how birth is part of our sexuality?
The hormones of birth and sex are the same and require the same conditions – privacy, safety, and feeling of being unobserved to flow.
I’ve supported women using traditional comfort measures and witnessed them bearing their pain and often transforming it into pleasure.
I was fortunate to learn these comfort techniques and traditional tools used for birth from midwives I met attending births around the world in Mexico, US, New Zealand, Netherlands, Botswana and Bali, and from my mentor, Penny Simkin.
I soon discovered that we had lost many of these traditional practices as well as the ancestral knowledge of how to make birth safer, shorter, and more pleasurable.
I knew I had to reframe the language around birth and reintegrate these traditional skills back into the world, which eventually led me to create my award-winning documentary, Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret and shortly after, our book Orgasmic Birth.
I won’t stop until we heal our broken maternity care system, and the good news is that we are starting to make and see changes!
I have seen firsthand how current practices in birth often create pain when there are so many simple ways to reduce pain, making natural birth a much more feasible option, which is why the work I do as chair of the International MotherBaby Childbirth Organization and co-chair of the International Childbirth Initiative: 12 Steps to Safe and Respectful MotherBaby-Family Maternity Care is so important to me.
I have a unique ability to work at both the grassroots level with parents, doulas, and communities as well as with the grasstops level with Doctors, Nurses, Midwives, Administrators, Ministries of Health, and at the United Nations.
Statistics have shown that we have pushed the limits of what technology can do for us, and now we know the many short and long-term consequences for Mother-Baby and Family when we use drugs and surgery unnecessarily.
It’s my greatest desire to spread this knowledge by making it more accessible.
As a parent, I am here to guide you to give birth in any setting or situation with more love, dignity, and respect, as well as reconnecting with your body and sexuality after birth, no matter what your experience may have been.
As a doula, I am here to help you bring the Orgasmic Birth methodology into your practice so that more women can experience a new way to birth.
Join me so that you can Positively Prepare for Birth with Pleasure!
Allow me to guide you on this sacred journey. Let’s have fun as I will inspire you to learn how to connect more deeply to your natural ability and to find pleasure in birth and life!
With sincere love and pleasure,
© Gwen Schroeder |Rebirth Photography
© Monet Nicole
Is it hard for you to believe that birth can be more than just pain?
Do you worry about what your relationship, body, and intimacy will be like after having a baby?
Are you a doula who wants to offer your clients more options to experience a pleasurable birth?
Debra Pascali-Bonaro is a world-renowned inspirational speaker, filmmaker, doula trainer, childbirth educator, and author. Debra’s latest book, an Amazon #1 New Release, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Baby: Secrets to Love and Intimacy brings together her passion for pleasure in every aspect of life with her Jersey-Girl attitude of talking about what no one is talking about! Debra is a mother, grandmother and featured expert in parenting journals and media around the world.
Debra Pascali-Bonaro is also Co-Chair of the International Childbirth Initiative and Chair of the International MotherBaby Childbirth Initiative both of which promote safe, respectful childbirth maternity care. She is a Lamaze International childbirth educator, birth and postpartum doula trainer with DONA International, Director of the award-winning documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, co-writer of “Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth” and the Founder & President of the revolutionary online childbirth class Pain to Power, which prepares expectant mothers, fathers, and partners to be positively prepared for birth and focuses on the intimate and sacred nature of birth. Debra’s passion comes from her over 30 years of working with women, men, midwives, doulas, physicians and nurses in over 40 countries bringing comfort, love, and pleasure to birth and life!
Debra Pascali Bonaro has been featured on ABC’s 20/20, Good Morning Russia, The NBC Today Show, Discovery Health, in The New York Times, The LA Times, The UK Times as well as numerous Parenting and Health Magazines around the world.
Debra Pascali-Bonaro is a world-renowned inspirational speaker, filmmaker, doula trainer, childbirth educator, and author. Debra’s latest book, an Amazon #1 New Release, The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Baby: Secrets to Love and Intimacy brings together her passion for pleasure in every aspect of life with her Jersey-Girl attitude of talking about what no one is talking about!
Debra is a mother, grandmother and featured expert in parenting journals and media around the world.
Debra Pascali-Bonaro is also Co-Chair of the International Childbirth Initiative and Chair of the International MotherBaby Childbirth Initiative both of which promote safe, respectful childbirth maternity care. She is a Lamaze International childbirth educator, birth and postpartum doula trainer with DONA International, Director of the award-winning documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret, co-writer of “Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth” and the Founder & President of the revolutionary online childbirth class Pain to Power, which prepares expectant mothers, fathers, and partners to be positively prepared for birth and focuses on the intimate and sacred nature of birth. Debra’s passion comes from her over 30 years of working with women, men, midwives, doulas, physicians and nurses in over 40 countries bringing comfort, love, and pleasure to birth and life!
Debra Pascali Bonaro has been featured on ABC’s 20/20, Good Morning Russia, The NBC Today Show, Discovery Health, in The New York Times, The LA Times, The UK Times as well as numerous Parenting and Health Magazines around the world.
We donate a percentage of every class to improve care and create birth equality. As Co-Chair of the International Birth Initiative: 12 Steps to Safe, Respectful Mother Baby Family Maternity Care, I work with maternity sites around the world. I know how far support can ripple out as we come together to ensure safe, satisfying, and pleasurable births for all.
At Orgasmic Birth our mission is to provide information, education, and support for all birthing people. We are dedicated to equitable care, anti-racism, and anti-oppression and we actively work for birth justice. We advocate for every person’s right to respectful care, to understand all options, and participate in informed decision-making.
