Hello beautiful soul,
I’m Debra Pascali-Bonaro, founder of Orgasmic Birth.
I believe that birth can—and should—be experienced with love, power, and even pleasure.
My passion is to help every woman discover the emotional and physical heights that childbirth holds, and to create a healthy maternity care system —one joyful birth at a time.
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“I believe this is the most well-balanced, truthful, celebration of birth that I have ever viewed.”
-Carolyn Rafferty, RNC-O
What is Orgasmic birth?
Orgasmic Birth is about celebrating birth as a loving, empowering, and ecstatic experience.
Embracing your body’s natural rhythms.
Moving through labor with confidence, connection, and trust.
It’s not just about sexual pleasure, it’s about discovering comfort, safety, and joy in the birth process.
In our book Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth Experience, Elizabeth Davis and I define Orgasmic Birth as a broad and inclusive experience. It describes birth moments full of ecstatic sensation—sometimes including waves of pleasure and climax during delivery.
Many women describe feeling intense pressure and exquisite sensations as birth nears, followed by a profound release and overwhelming joy when the baby is born. When these physical and emotional moments are fully experienced as pleasurable, we call this Orgasmic Birth.
While filming the documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best Kept Secret, I witnessed countless powerful and pleasurable births. The surprise was how laboring women, when supported by love, respect, and care, often had dramatically more pleasurable experiences—some even orgasmic.
Orgasmic Birth isn’t just about intense moments; it includes blissful waves between contractions—a peaceful, whole-body sensation where sexual energy and pleasure flow. This is a state of surrender, filled with oxytocin (the “love hormone”), connecting mother, baby, and partner deeply.
Dr. Sarah Buckley explains that high levels of endorphins can help transform pain into an altered, ecstatic state—this is the essence of an undisturbed, orgasmic birth.
I believe every woman has the human right to a pleasurable birth. For me, orgasmic birth means birthing with love and power, honoring the profound emotional and physical heights labor offers.
Childbirth is a miraculous journey—often challenging, sometimes scary—but with the right conditions, comfort, and support, it can be filled with joy, pleasure, and hormonal ecstasy.
Your body, which grows your baby, knows how to birth your baby. Orgasmic Birth is about reclaiming your body and creating the birth experience you desire—one filled with love, power, and deep connection.
Reclaim your birth. Reclaim your power. Create the birth experience you and your baby deserve.
Why Orgasmic Birth Matters
Less fear, more joy: When you feel safe and supported, your body releases oxytocin, endorphins, and other hormones that bring comfort—and sometimes waves of pleasure—through labor.
A deeper connection: Orgasmic Birth honors the transformative journey, connecting you with your baby and partner in powerful, lasting ways.
Empowerment: You reclaim birth as your own, rewriting it from pain and anxiety to confidence and celebration.
The Benefits of Orgasmic Birth
- Reduced pain and anxiety
- A more positive birth experience
- Greater emotional healing after birth
- Stronger partner connection
- Confidence for parenting and beyond
“Debra’s life work is to reframe today’s widespread belief that birth is frightening, dangerous and painful.
In everything she says and does, Debra models the joy, pleasure and empowerment that is available in birth. Let her show you how to prepare yourselves for the rewards of giving birth.”
-Penny Simkin
meet the ORGASMIC BIRTH® FOUNDER
DEBRA PASCALI-BONARO, LCCE, BDT/PDT(DONA)
Debra Pascali-Bonaro is a world-renowned inspirational speaker, podcaster, filmmaker, doula trainer, childbirth educator, and author. Debra’s podcast, Orgasmic Birth heals barriers and opens the door to share secrets to more love and intimacy in birth and parenting. She brings together her passion for pleasure in every aspect of life with her Jersey-Girl attitude of talking about what no one is talking about! Debra is a mother, grandmother and featured expert in parenting journals and media around the world.
Debra is also Co-Chair of the International Childbirth Initiative and Chair of the International MotherBaby Childbirth Initiative both of which promote safe, respectful maternity care. She is a Lamaze International childbirth educator, birth and postpartum doula trainer with DONA International, Director of the award-winning documentary Orgasmic Birth: The Best-Kept Secret and co-writer of “Orgasmic Birth: Your Guide to a Safe, Satisfying and Pleasurable Birth”, Author of The Ultimate Guide To Sex After Baby: Secrets to Love and Intimacy and the Founder & President of the revolutionary online childbirth class Pleasurable Birth Essentials which prepares expectant mothers, fathers, and partners to be positively prepared for birth and focuses on the intimate and sacred nature of birth.
Debra’s passion comes from her over 35 years of working with women, men, midwives, doulas, physicians and nurses in over 50 countries bringing comfort, love, and pleasure to birth and life!
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The Science Behind the Magic
Pleasure is a natural part of birth, thanks to hormones like oxytocin (the “love hormone”), endorphins, and adrenaline. When you feel safe, supported, and relaxed, your body can transform labor into a deeply positive experience.
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finger vibrator for childbirth
Firmly rooted in the belief that birth can be pleasurable and powerful, Orgasmic Birth and Dame have come together to create the first ever vibrator for birth.
Meet the Fin PleasureVibe, a wearable finger vibrator that can be used in pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum for pleasure, oxytocin enhancement, pain reduction, and healing.
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for parents
Ensure you are positively prepared for a safe, satisfying, and pleasurable birth and a loving, intimate relationship as a parent. From planning your unique birth experience to reconnecting with your sexuality after birth, our programs offer exactly what you need!
Our resources will empower you!
for birthworkers
Be at the forefront of the new paradigm of birth as a sought-after doula, trained by one of the world’s most well-known leaders in pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. Our courses offer continuing education credit, mentorship, and inspiration to expand your practice with tools and tips for Orgasmic Birth® and parenting with pleasure.
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“Five stars to Debra Pascali Bonaro for comprehensive and dynamic conversations that support safe pregnancy, childbirth and body wisdom!”
-D.
Transformative Conversation on Birth
“Debra’s compassionate and empowering approach to exploring pregnancy, birth and parenting is inspiring. Great work!
-SamBGuia
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“Debra has so much valuable info to share for mothers-to-be and anyone who assists in the birthing process. It is so inspiring to hear the birth stories from women and to hear from the experts. I’m so thankful she started this podcast. What an amazing resource.”
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