I’m Laura Rose Halliday, a guest teacher at Orgasmic Birth. And today I’m going to discuss the power of the female orgasm and its use as a tool for pleasure in pregnancy, childbirth, and parenting.
But first, let me introduce myself.
I’m the owner of School of Squirt, a website and blog with one main goal: to teach women (and their partners) how to harness the full potential of female pleasure.
So no matter where you are in your fertility journey, I’m here to share the beauty of orgasm and its role in various stages of life.
The Power of Orgasm
The female orgasm is an incredibly powerful experience.
It’s described differently by every woman, with some experiencing full-body waves of pleasure and others feeling pleasure more directly concentrated in their core.
But all women can likely agree that orgasm is beyond any level of pleasure they have felt otherwise.
More important than the physical experience, though, is the spiritual.
The female orgasm is a primal pleasure. During orgasm, we lose all sense of self and ego. We exist only in the pleasure we feel, and this can lead in to a full-blown feeling of transcendence. The out-of-body experience can be a lesson in how to harness your power and overcome the physical challenges of pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum.
Orgasm as a Tool… in Pregnancy
Despite what much of media will have you think, pregnancy is not the sole defining characteristic of a pregnant woman. No matter how ecstatic a woman is to be pregnant, she still retains all other mental and emotional characteristics that make her who she is.
This includes the sensual characteristics within her.
In pregnancy, it can be easy to lose that connection to your sensuality. You are experiencing tremendous physical changes, and that’s not to mention the emotional and mental toll of pregnancy.
But as with any change—good or bad—you sometimes have to put in the conscious effort to keep certain aspects of yourself in tact.
The orgasm is a direct connection to that aspect of yourself. It’s an expression of your sensuality that can provide you with overwhelming pleasure, but also a sense of peace.
Oxytocin, a byproduct of orgasm, is also a well-known pain reliever. And who needs that more than a woman experiencing the aches of pregnancy?
If experienced with a partner, orgasm can also help to keep that sensual connection intact while you prepare for the life-altering changes to come.
Orgasm as a Tool… in Childbirth
I don’t think I need to tell the readers of Orgasmic Birth that orgasm can be a powerful tool in childbirth.
If you think about it, there is a strong connection between pleasure and pain. While they’re on opposite ends of the spectrum, they are on the same spectrum nonetheless. There is increasing scientific literature on the matter but to sum it up, it all comes down to “the significance of the opioid and dopamine systems in modulating both pain and pleasure.”
So if pain and pleasure are modulated by the same systems in the human body, how can this be harnessed during childbirth?
An orgasmic, or ecstatic, birth takes conscious work. There is a mindset shift that needs to happen, but fortunately, more and more doulas are becoming well-versed in the movement.
Orgasm as a Tool… in Parenting
In the days, weeks, months, and even years following childbirth, it can become easy to get wrapped up in the day-to-day parenting tasks. With each new stage, there is a new shift in your focus.
But orgasm after a baby can be just as vital to your spiritual health as food, water, and sleep are to your physical health.
You are a parent, but you are also a woman with needs separate from your child.
Orgasm can be a way to ground yourself and to release pent-up stress and tension. It can also help you to learn to love your body post-pregnancy which is so crucial to helping you maintain that sensual sense of self.
When orgasm is experienced with a partner, it can also be a relationship-grounding tool. One that brings you back together, no matter the chaos in the other areas of your busy lives.
It’s true that your sensual needs will ebb and flow throughout your life. However, I urge you to make them a priority, and especially when experiencing such life-altering changes as pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum.
That connection to that part of your self is crucial in feeling like the whole, complete person that you are.
Not to mention, orgasm can also provide you with the sense of power you need to get through some of the hardest parts of your fertility journey, including childbirth