Prepare to be inspired as Sandra Skjaervoe, a courageous soul, unveils her personal story of transformative power. Determined to reclaim the lost elements of pleasure that have been stripped away during childbirth, Sandra embarked on a remarkable journey of self-discovery and empowerment. Join Debra and Sandra, united in their passion for reshaping the childbirth experience, embarking on an exploration of the power of mindset and conditioning.

Through their profound insights and shared wisdom, they aimed to empower others with a renewed sense of strength and self-assurance.

In this episode:

  • Sandra Skjaervoe shares her own profound healing journey, underscoring the potential for personal transformation.
  • Sandra realized pregnancy was a great opportunity to clear negativity from life by learning to set boundaries and heal old wounds
  • Sandra aimed to approach motherhood with conscious awareness to break the cycle of generational trauma
  • Her planned home birth turned into a hospital birth due to unforeseen complications.
  • She used certain frequencies of her voice that helped her with pain relief.
  • Her birth experience served as a powerful catalyst for personal healing and growth.
  • She tried using a vibrator during labor which transformed the feeling of pain during contractions into pleasure.  
  • Sandra uses nitrous oxide that sends her into a hallucinating state where she disassociates from her body – for good and for bad. 
  • She needed pitocin and an epidural at the end.

Sandra describes her experience as a positive and healing opportunity overall. She encourages listeners to nurture a trusting relationship with their body and listen to its signs.


She also suggests Debra’s Pleasurable Birth Essentials class for new parents to positively prepare for birth!

Listen Now!

Key Takeaways:

  • Pain and pleasure are interconnected, and one’s mindset and conditioning can influence their interpretation of intensity during labor
  • It is important to set boundaries and consciously approach motherhood to break the cycle of generational trauma
  • Pregnancy provides an opportunity for healing and preparing for the transformative power of birth
  • Utilizing specific frequencies of the voice can provide pain relief during labor
  • Intensity can be interpreted differently depending on mindset and conditioning

Tweetable Quotes:

“Pain and pleasure are two sides of the same coin, and we have techniques and tools within our bodies to flip the coin. And in order to to use those tools, we first need to have the mindset in place.”

“Nurture that trusting relationship you have with your body to tell you when something is wrong, to tell you when something is right, and to trust that it knows what it’s doing.”

Prefer to Watch?

Has your sex life vanished since having a baby?

Are you missing the intimacy you had with your partner (or yourself) now that you are a parent?

Finding it hard to feel sexy? Being a parent is not the opposite of being a lover. You can be both.

Debra Pascali-Bonaro offers her lifetime of wisdom working with new parents to guide you with her simple actionable steps that will turn your struggles into opportunities for more love, fun, and SEX! Yes, even after having a baby.

Order your copy of the The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Baby: Secrets to Love and Intimacy today!

Only $9.99!