I believe this year is a turning point in understanding the power, pleasure and ecstasy that is available in childbirth for both MotherBaby.
Dr. Sarah Buckley has published her landmark report on the hormones of childbirth, the ways they are released with ease and the procedures and interventions that disturb their natural flow. I learned about Dr. Sarah Buckley’s work many years ago when I first read her article – Ecstatic Birth: Nature’s Hormonal Blue Print for Labour. I was even more thrilled when I met her and since have had the opportunity to have her join us at www.eatpraydoula.com in Bali, in Italy and to host her at my home in NJ. Each time I hear her talk about hormones in birth and how the hormones are released and create an orgasmic, blissful, ecstatic feeling I know that one day every person will understand the essential connection between- why our emotions, where and with whom we birth matters so much in helping us to create the ideal environment to release the hormones of childbirth and birth in orgasmic ecstasy and love!
While you know I love the science behind how and why our hormones work best including needing safety, privacy and being undisturbed.
The best confirmation of our hormones working well is in listening to women who have had blissful, joyful, orgasmic birth. Liybie used hypnobirth “I was medicated, by my body’s own oxytocin and endorphins. I had what some people call an “orgasmic birth”. Emma rode the birth waves for her transformative birth. Shiraz brought herself to orgasm for her birth and Eva didn’t even try! When asked if you had an orgasmic birth, here is what you shared with your communities.
1. “With both my kids I had a natural childbirth and I had this feeling beyond description, like real true pure love I can’t think of a way to put it into words but I think it was meant to be that way. I think its meant to connect us with our children.” (Kristina Cuddeback in response to Women’s Rights News post).
2. “Orgasmic Birth is completely possible. Do any of you know anything about your own bodies? Women use the same muscles to orgasm that are used in child birth, combine that with all the Oxytocin that is being produced and a little bit love and affection from your partner and it is completely possible.” (Jaden Fitzherbert also in response to WRN)
3. “I had an orgasmic birth. It was in a hospital environment without my partner who was more terrified to see me suffer so chose to stay outside. It was in France with a midwife trained in Ayurveda, homeopathic methods. It was the most wonderful experience. I wish the fear imbued in young women was removed as birth can become a less fretful, natural process if we demystify the subject. I had scalp massage, birth canal massage to reduce risk of tearing, and was told where to touch my temples to reduce pain if I felt it. I had a particular diet and bathing routine, everything my Australian mum would never discuss. I have spoken to other women who have also had my experience but fear speaking aloud of the sheer bliss it can be!” Frangipani in response to Essential Baby blog.
4. “It’s really not surprising that people are so reluctant to believe a pain-free, let alone orgasmic, birthing experience is possible. We in the West have built up such a culture of fear around birth that most women immediately have expectations of unbearable pain, hysterics in the delivery room and screaming bloody murder for the epi. This, combined with the majority birthing in hospitals, means most women’s journey is full of interventions and medication. Hard to have an orgasmic or simply pleasurable birth when you can’t feel anything from the waist down, or are in a foggy pethidine haze. Educate yourselves ladies, there is a whole other birthing experience out there if you seek knowledge from natural birthing advocates and redefine your birthing expectations. Anything is possible!” – Boatie also in response to Essential Baby blog.
#5. “I had an orgasmic birth with my first baby. A natural birth with my family around me for support and encouragement to sink into the pain and let my body take over. A midwife who let me be and just took a watching brief so that time could pass. It was truly the most mind-blowing experience of my life too but I haven’t talked about it.
The second birth…no orgasm. Still a natural birth but much faster as my body knew what to do.” – Amanda in response to Essential Baby blog
#6. “It happened to me with my first but it was not something I was expecting to happen. I prepared for a natural birth and had a supportive partner, which really enabled me to relax completely during labor. I’d have to say the ‘pain’ was minimal and there was no ‘pushing’ involved in the delivery – my body did it all by itself.
“It was the most mind-blowing experience of my life and I have never felt such a high in my life – it was truly orgasmic.
“It’s not the kind of thing you go around talking about though particularly when you hear everyone else’s horror stories about birth.
“So while I know it’s possible, I would say it’s pretty rare, even among those who go through drug free labors. My second labor was completely different. While it was still natural and a wonderful experience it was not orgasmic like the first.” – Boatie
#7. “This is a very interesting report for me because I experienced this intense feeling while giving birth to my first child. I had never heard of this until I read this article and it now affirms that it was not a figment of my imagination. The feeling happened when the baby passed through the birth canal. This is the first time since this happened that I have acknowledged this because it was never discussed, this did not happen during the birth of my second and third child and I didn’t think about it because you are intent on giving birth not looking for an orgasm. So lets look at this as a scientific phenomenon, not something to make cheap jokes about. – Anne-claire Souza in response to Huff Post blog