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Join host Debra Pascali-Bonaro in breaking down barriers and healing shame surrounding sexuality and childbirth. In this episode, she dispels myths around pain during childbirth and shares ways to bring comfort and pleasure to the experience. The conversation encourages individuals to have open conversations with their healthcare providers about their desires for intimacy and pleasure during labor, as well as the importance of having a supportive team.

My guest today is expanding the discussion and our understanding “The Clitoris: For More than Just Pleasure!”

Jessica Pin is an advocate for inclusion of detailed clitoral anatomy in medical literature and curricula, training standards for vulvar procedures, and correction of medical misinformation about vulvas. She has gotten 12 major medical textbooks, 2 top anatomy apps, and multiple online resources to update their content, and more to promise future updates. She has also published a cadaveric study with plastic surgeons, convinced OB/GYNs to publish a cadaveric study, and effected changes in OB/GYN and plastic surgery board certification, standardized consent forms, and residency curricula. She holds a degree in Biomedical Engineering from Washington University in St. Louis.

Today’s podcast is important because as doulas know, water labor and birth is not always available and should be! And when it is available, in too many places providers pull the plug when women start pushing. It’s time we all speak up about the many benefits of water and make sure when available it is part of every person’s comfort options for childbirth.

I recently saw an incredible video Anatomy of the Clitoris: Learn Integral Anatomy with Gil Hedley. I smiled, I had met Gil many years ago when he was having his children, I trained his sister as a doula and have loved following her path as she is now a midwife. Even Gils mother trained as a postpartum doula with me and we worked together for several years. So now to see his work so well describe the clitoris describing in his words ‘a beautiful gift and the blessing of the clitoris’, I knew I had to reach out to invite him to join me to share with you all his thoughts about the clitoris and any thoughts about the role it may play in labor and birth and his insight for an Orgasmic Birth

Stephanie Larson, the visionary founder of Dancing For Birth™, and renowned birth expert joins us to discuss movement and dance in birth. Her revolutionary childbirth method has helped countless women and birthing individuals achieve blissful and effortless births. Birth professionals can attend the Dancing For Birth™ Professional Training to learn and utilize this proven method. Parents worldwide can also benefit from the powerful combination of fitness, childbirth education, and celebration offered in Dancing For Birth™ prenatal/postpartum classes taught across six continents. Join Stephanie in empowering your body and birth experience through movement and instinct.

In this episode, Debra and Toni Harman explore the impact of birth on a baby’s microbiome and immune system. Learn about the importance of doulas, skin-to-skin contact, and breastfeeding initiation and discover the vital role of the microbiome in human health, particularly during birth.

Debra shares how expecting parents can positively prepare for an orgasmic birth. From researching birth options, to expressing feelings and wishes, to being a part of the collaborative decision making, Debra helps listeners explore how to create customized birth preferences. She discusses ways to make labor enjoyable, and pleasurable by using movement, creating a special birth ambiance and feeling safe, supported and cared for.

A Powerful Homebirth Story Michelle’s Story I broke my waters at 6 am when i was heading the elevator after waking up with a big wish of being in nature. From 6 am to 12 pm i was in nesting … Continued

Kaitlin McGreyes is the founder of BeHerVillage, a gift registry for parents to find and fund the care they need as they welcome their babies. She began her career as a birth doula in 2014, providing support to hundreds of families through their parenthood journeys.

TOP SIX Ways a Doula Creates a Safe and Loving Space for Labor, Birth & Postpartum Doulas help create a birth environment what I call birth ambiance that sets the stage for your hormones to flow for a gentle birth Doulas support your … Continued

Adam suggested we try to get some sleep, but I responded “I don’t think you understand!” At that point, Adam realized it was time to call the birth team.

Dawn Leonard is a womb healing practitioner who has devoted over a decade to the art of healing the womb space, including both the physical uterus and the energetics of the “second chakra”. Her journey began with fertility and has since led her through a range of experiences, including pregnancy, birth,, menstruation, ceremony, and energy healing. Dawn specializes in the initiatory experiences inherent in the body of a woman or person with a uterus, and her passion is to empower others on their own journey towards womb healing.

Clancy McCarty is a registered nurse, and student-nurse midwife who spent over a decade as a documentary film producer with Every Mother Counts, the maternal health advocacy non-profit founded by Christy Turlington Burns that aims to make pregnancy and childbirth safe globally. Prior to becoming a student nurse-midwife, Clancy completed her doula training with Debra. She is the co-founder of Pregnancy Pathways, a consulting company providing education, resources, and guidance on how to find birth teams and settings for expecting parents in Los Angeles. She most recently became a mom, giving birth at home surrounded by midwives.

In this episode, Meghan Hindi, an inspirational mother who experienced healing through an ecstatic home birth, shares her powerful story of reclaiming her strength and finding joy after years of feeling like she was nothing. She stresses how birth can be a transformational experience and delves into the role of therapy in healing from trauma and accepting post-traumatic growth. This is an inspiring story that reminds us that with the right support, we can all access our power within!

Dr. Amanda inspires you with her wisdom about what to do when your birth plan turns upside-down and how she prepared for and had a miraculous orgasmic breech birth!

Through her personal experience, she shares how to navigate through fear, medical system stress, and unexpected challenges. Be inspired to receive better birth support, trust your own womb/gut, and receive from the divine to have a pleasurable and sacred birth-experience. Let’s dive in!

When you are pregnant or preparing for pregnancy have you ever stopped to think about how the first 1000 days of your baby’s life and your life as parents makes a difference?
My guest today will share How your first 1000 days hold the key to health, happiness and your Blueprint for Bliss.

In this episode, Debra Pascali discusses the history of birth positions prior to the medicalization of birth, providing tips and tools to help parents prepare for birth with knowledge, power, and choices. She delves into the physiology of birth and how you can find comfort and pleasure in easing a baby into the world. Join us for this essential exploration into creating an informed birth experience full of pleasure!

Listen in to Valda Ford as she shares her experiences in giving birth and the hurdles she faced, especially during her second birth. Through her story, she emphasizes the importance of being open and honest with partners, understanding cultural norms and practices, and exploring pleasure in a safe environment.

Elizabeth Davis, a midwife, reproductive health care specialist, educator, and consultant for over 40 years, explores the powerful link between female sexuality and birth and why bringing awareness of plateaus in labor is a key element to having a better birth experience.

The birth of our love child turned out to be a testament to love. We trusted our baby, she trusted me, and luckily we got a midwife who trusted us both. That alone made what could have been a chaotic and fearful hospital birth, where nearly all my wishes were thrown out the window, into a dignified and strengthening experience that we can all be proud of.

In this episode, Dr. Mary Jo Podgurski discusses the importance of good sex education and how it can help reduce barriers to pleasure for both survivors of sexual assault and new parents who are looking to have a positive postpartum experience. If you’re interested in learning more about how pleasure can help make childbirth easier and happier for everyone involved, I highly recommend listening to this episode!

In this episode they share their birth story and how they became familiar with the concept of orgasmic birth. Jenny shares her experience during this her second labor, the extraordinary circumstances that didn’t permit the birth age had wanted, and how they were able to overcome the difficulties by focusing on love and joy. Tune in and find out the power of the oxytocin connection!

More pleasure can be found in birth by bringing in movement, rhythm, ritual and relaxation to birth. The importance of understanding how these aspects, along with love, care and respect can never be understated.

In this episode, Dr. Aviva Romm discusses embodied birth as the new epidural and how it can be a beneficial option for some women. She shares her insights about birth as a sexual experience and the importance of the feeling whole and connected in our bodies during this experience. Dr. Aviva breaks down different options for childbirth and the importance of honoring all choices when it comes to birthing. Listen and enjoy!

For some time now I have believed in the power of the moon energy for birth and conception. This birth’s timing reaffirms this for me.

I went into this pregnancy aiming to stay calm and at peace. I did pretty well. I focused on prepping my mindset and noticed the mind/body connection.

Today, Dr. Diane S Speie provides great insights about how to make the transition to parenthood a positive experience. She is here to discuss – Is there sex after birth?: Sex and Intimacy in the Fourth Trimester”. She emphasizes the importance of talking openly about birth preferences to help create a better experience for both parents and stresses why sexuality is just one aspect of intimacy. Tune in and discover how to thrive in the Fourth Trimester!

In this episode, Tilly Storm navigates into how to use orgasmic birth as the ultimate self-development tool and how her free birth experience with her first son shifted her entire understanding of herself and her body. She breaks down the three different phases of development and how they can help you prepare for childbirth and sexuality.

In this episode, Debra discusses why it’s essential to create an orgasmic birth environment where you feel safe and respected.

I knew the moment after James was born that I wanted to do that again! But it took a long time to be ready for it. In the meantime I was going through my journey into the Feminine. I read all about Orgasmic Birth. I trained as a birth doula, a prenatal yoga teacher and a Reiki practitioner. In fact, I’m pretty confident that it was while I was practicing Reiki on my husband that the conception vessel opened and we got pregnant again. There was no extra preparation or trying this time.

In this episode, we are joined by Margaret Jowitt to talk about how familiarity with a woman’s anatomy could greatly impact one’s experience of childbirth. Clitoris’ role in reproduction is often disregarded but with proper understanding and technique, it can actually ease the intensity of labor and make up for a positive birth experience.

In this episode, we are joined by Ngozi Tibbs to talk about how past experiences impact one’s thoughts and feelings during pregnancy, labor, birth, and postpartum birth.

Birth is designed to be orgasmic, the fluttering vaginal contractions of orgasm initiated by the pressure of the fetal head also help ease the baby out. The engorgement of the vestibular bulbs and the crura provide a cushion for the back of the baby’s head to protect it from the hard bones of the pubic arch. All mammals evolved to have vaginal orgasm at birth to help their offspring out. Orgasm by external stimulation during sex is an added bonus.

“Every patient who enters Dr. Rubin’s office, regardless of age, is taken on a tour of their own vulva. No longer is a sheet draped over a patient’s legs for the pelvic exam — a convention that Dr. Rubin believes helps keep women’s “private parts” shameful and hidden. Instead, Dr. Rubin starts by handing her patient a long-handled mirror to see the same anatomy that she will be examining.

With a Q-tip, Dr. Rubin probes each part of the vulva for pain, pointing out the labia minora, labia majora and vaginal opening as her patient follows along. Then, she checks under the clitoral hood for adhesions or other skin conditions. The entire exam usually takes under five minutes. “We go at your pace,” she said recently in an exam with a 62-year-old woman, who was experiencing pain after sex. “You’re the boss of this show.””

Rodríguez, who works as a doula in Cancún, said she experienced the kind of orgasmic birth that Pascali-Bonaro referred to, which Rodríguez described as “intense, orgasmic states of mind.” She added that while giving birth she also experienced sexual orgasms.

Yanique deep dives into female sexuality and how the importance of understanding yourself and learning about your anatomy in order to experience orgasm. She’s also shared the reason why some women might feel a lack of sensation or pain and the methods to achieve soul-deep love and orgasmic effervescence. Let’s dive in!

In this conversation, Melissa Ambrosini delves into how pleasure played a significant role in her birth and relationship and what helped her and her partner to rediscover each other and their intimacy.

Claire talks about vaginal preparation before childbirth, and what happens to our body after pregnancy. She highlights the importance of understanding and honoring the body and how you and your partner could gradually resume intimacy.

Founder of Nnenna Birth. Her mission is to revolutionize the way we give birth in this country. Theresa and Debra discuss how research can help you decide which birthing methods are best for you.

In this episode, we are joined by Henci Goer, Birth Options Expert, Author & Educator who shares how
women could prepare for intentional vaginal birth.

Sarah and Matthew Bivens are the creators of Doing It At Home, a platform for empowering home birth content and community. The Doing It At Home podcast started in 2016 when they were pregnant with their first child and switched from hospital birth to a home birth halfway through the pregnancy

In this episode, Debra discusses how your environment plays a huge role in having a safe and pleasurable birthing experience.

Birth can be safe, healthy, and empowering for women. With proper preparation and the right support team, there’s a greater chance of achieving orgasmic birth, leaving a wonderful memory for you and your partner. In this episode, Doula Andrea Hausheer discusses how home birth can be a wonderful experience as a mother and how different it is from giving birth at the hospital.

In this episode, Debra welcomes Olivia Bryant to talk about the cervix and how it can be an organ of pleasure. She believes everyone should have the opportunity to experience pleasure during pregnancy and childbirth.

Debra welcomes Donna Tabas as they discuss how birthing can be a beautiful experience despite the challenges. Listen closely as Donna focuses on the terminologies during birth on what to be mindful of.

Doulas have many benefits for a woman during labor and postpartum, but there are not enough of them in the birthing space. Listen in as Debra discusses how doulas are the missing link in maternity care, and how they can help amplify the voice of the birthing people facilitating informed decision making

I loved learning from the various specialists (lactation consultant, midwife, etc.). I loved how empowered, inspired, and informed I felt after each class. I felt so fortunate to receive life-changing training from such a knowledgeable and passionate teacher (Debra) from the comfort of my home.

How do we manifest a blissful, orgasmic birth? It involves targeting your limiting beliefs and looking more deeply into our minds and bodies. Today’s episode features Gina Ojeda, who will be sharing her powerful personal experience of a blissful birth. Listen in and explore the topic of pleasure, as it is one of the most important factors for a joyful and peaceful experience during and after birth.

How significant is the role of oxytocin in our bodies during labor and after birth? Dr. Sarah Buckley joined us in Episode 4 to talk about the hormones of Love, Sex and Childbirth. Today, Dr. Buckley is back to get in-depth on the roles of hormones when interventions are needed and on how to fill the hormonal gap in labor and after birth. Today is essential information to help you make informed decisions about induction and understand the differences between natural and synthetic oxytocin.

In this episode, Dr. Rachel Rubin discusses the importance of good sexual health and how pleasure is essential for a healthy relationship.

Debra shares the acronym P.L.E.A.S.U.R.E.S. and how these steps can deepen your connection to your body and sexuality.

Piper Lovemore is an original Orgasmic Birth alum. Since birthing her first child in our documentary, she has gone on to welcome 6 more children, at home, via empowered, sovereign, and intuitive free births. Inspired by the concept of birth as a catalyst for personal growth and transformation, she has pursued a passion-driven career in the birth arts and supported hundreds of families as a birth educator, doula, and midwife.

Sheila Kamara Hay shares how letting the sexual energy flow from our bodies as opposed to resistance allows for magnified pleasure. Tune in to learn about sensual expansion and how we can activate pleasure within the body to support the progression of your labor. Sheila emphasizes the power of tapping into our natural design and how pleasure is an innate part of our process.

Sokhna Heathyre Mabin talks about her journey from her initial challenging childbirth experience to birthing naturally full of pleasure and trust in her own body. Listen in as she breaks down how to honor our bodies and trust the process of natural childbirth.

​Naolí Vinaver is a Mexican midwife who combines traditional Mexican and contemporary home birth practices, with a profound respect for the physiology of natural birth, having attended over 1700 home births in both Mexico and Brazil. Naolí is a passionate speaker and educator, teaching hundreds of workshops and seminars in over 30 countries around the world.

Debra discusses how a woman’s vision for her labor and delivery should include anticipating what the baby might need and not focusing on achieving a specific goal.

Are you ready to welcome change and break away from the stigma surrounding childbirth? In this episode, my guest, Marrit Vos tells her story of how she embraced an intimate and wild birth despite fears and

Sarah talks about her unexpectedly fast home birth, which she describes in further detail in her book Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering. The foundation of hormonal physiology is that first, it’s designed for us to conduct successful birth.

Renee talks about her amazing orgasmic birth experience with her two children. Being in the present and listening to your body helps prevent unnecessary discomfort, while also keeping the experience pure.

Lack of good sexual education has led to a rise in fear of childbirth and dissatisfaction with the experience. Debra highlights the importance of having a positive experience during labor and birth, emphasizing the importance of trusting one’s body. Midwives play an important role in making women feel confident and empowered in the childbirth process. It is important for people to have access to trained midwives who can provide support during labor and delivery. The Global Survey on Birth and Breastfeeding Practices was convened to launch a global initiative to improve breastfeeding rates. Debra talks about how collaborating with other organizations have led to a number of successes, including the creation of the International Childbirth Initiative. Debra also tackles the effects of bad birth experiences on people’s feelings about their bodies and relationships.

I believe pleasure is our birthright. Let me begin by explaining how I discovered orgasmic birth.

What an important and personal discussion I had with Sarah Bivens from Doing It At Home, a company helping parents to feel confident, prepared and excited for home birth She shared a bit of her own birth story and decision to change from a hospital birth to a home birth and then we dove deep into her practices that include utilizing sexual energy for manifestation, healing and joy (as opposed to only looking at it for procreation, fun and/or duty)!

She shared how important it is for us to do our own work on having healthy relationship to sexuality and went onto discuss sexuality as a pillar of health (in all senses of the term) that impacts creativity and expression.

Watch our conversation below.

Tilly shared her story of how her first birth opened her up to a pleasurable birth experience and she wanted that feeling of being fully connected to her body again without having to be in labor. She explains how “Birth has a way of awakening and pushing up our trauma and drama “ and how healing is at the root of what holds many people back from experiencing their pleasure and desire to its fullest. Yes!! For me this is so important to consider as pregnancy, birth, and early parenting benefit so much from healing and as Tilly said acknowledging that intergenerational trauma – what is handed down from our ancestors, impacts us and now as a new parent you have a choice of bringing healing and providing your children with a different story and healthy connection to their body, pleasure, and sexuality. I asked her and ask you to consider what the world would be like if everyone had a positive relationship to your body, pleasure, and sexuality with great sexual education so you can experience your pleasure in birth to its fullest?

I would love to hear your thoughts?

My husband ran to press the button that opens the condominium door on the bottom floor (we’re on the third). He ran back to me, I pushed out our baby, and he put her on my chest. The whole birth team rushed in together. “We’re here!!! OMG you did it!! We’re here! You did amazing!!” I heard the click-click of the camera. I had done it. Maria Elena was so sweet looking up at me. She stretched and seemed to like having extra space. We stared at each other. It was pure magic.

I had a very smooth pregnancy and actually felt some gratitude towards this crazy situation (Covid). I normally travel a lot for work and was worried that my work travel schedule would create stress during my pregnancy. Since we had to be at home, I really slowed down, became more present, and even further connected with my husband during this special time in our lives. Up until little Oliver’s arrival, I stayed as active as possible walking, swimming, and practicing yoga.

Together with the help of many birth keepers, we’ve compiled a list of the birth groups and ways you can donate, send supplies and hold both the MotherBaby-Families and those providing care in your heart and prayers for safety, strength, and with love. We will continue to surround them with love and support in these challenging times.

Please comment below or email us to add additional resources. Our document is a living doc, and we will update as more information comes in.

A hospital with a bed and stirrups is definitely lacking in privacy and feeling unobserved, and it may not be as safe as you’d like.

The process of labor and birth is controlled by a carefully orchestrated set of hormones and processes. These processes are enhanced by the environment and the comfort and calm that can be maintained. A birthing person feeling stress or adrenaline will reduce the building hormones needed to continue moving labor forward.

So, when you walk into a birth room and only see a bed and stirrups, your response should be “what else do you have available for comfort and privacy during birth?”

One of her proudet moments, 💓💫
The home birth of her second daughter.
The pregnancy she experienced as a single mama.
The birth she planned as a single mama.
The birth she achieved as a single mama.
And now raising her two girls as a single mama.

DONA International is one of the oldest and most respected Doula Organizations in the world. I’ve been a Birth and Postpartum Doula Trainer for most of my career, and I am honored to be a part of this exceptional organization. Read my guide to becoming a DONA certified doula.

The anatomy of birth is the anatomy of pleasure, intimacy, and sacred sexuality. Birth moves a baby through a cervix, vagina, opens the labia, and touches clitoral nerves – all that under the right conditions can also bring pleasure and orgasm. I always say if you were to tell a person with a penis that they would have sensations there for over 10 hours, but that it isn’t sexual, that they would look at you like they were crazy!

After a year-long, community-centered process led by Every Mother Counts, the Choices in Childbirth series launches this week! This is a FIRST-OF-ITS-KIND educational hub for pregnancy, birth, and beyond–including films, worksheets, and helpful advice to guide every stage of your maternity care … Continued

Guest post While everyone always congratulates the soon-to-be mother, a celebration may be the last thing on your mind when you find out you’ll soon be bringing a new life into the world. From endless doctor’s appointments and constant cramps … Continued

How Birth Effected her Sexuality TW: miscarriage    shared by Aimee I have had six incredible birth journeys, each one beautifully supported and held. I felt empowered to make my own decisions and supported to traverse to the depths of … Continued

The First Sight is Everything – Homebirth Story of Danae The hardest, proudest, most intense, beautiful, empowering, healing, soul connecting, incredible experience of my life! ~ birthing my son at home. Never in a million years did I think I … Continued

The White House Hosts the Maternal Health Day of Action focusing on fixing our Maternal Health Crisis

If you need support contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-800-656-4673 When Survivors Give Birth Trigger Warning: Sexual Assault Our webinar covered difficult feelings that can be challenging, and yet is essential to talk about. I hope as you listen … Continued

By the time you got pregnant, chances are you saw plenty of people on TV and in movies having painful, difficult births, complete with lots of screaming and crying (and maybe a spouse’s hand being squished, too).

But what if birth didn’t have to be anything like that? What if it could be pleasurable? It turns out that there’s a movement trying to help more people experience this type of orgasmic birth.

I felt like I had to learn how to push.

It was the most POWERFUL feeling I could ever imagine and I was in awe of my animal nature. It was as if the power of all the women before me was coming through as I roared and roared. Laurence and Francesca were like my cheerleaders. They were so so amazing, words can’t explain.

Catching Your Own Baby shared by Hannah Atterberry, Empowerment Birth Services My birth was such an incredible journey. It was long… it was intense… and oh. So. Satisfying! Intense, transcending, beautiful, empowering, powerful all describe my birth perfectly. My daughter … Continued

When I told him “I study pleasure experienced during birth,” he said, “There’s no such thing.” Author: Elisabeth Bolaza Here’s how it went down. I was a very large 6-months pregnant with my second baby with the audacity to travel … Continued

One of the greatest joys of being the founder of the Orgasmic Birth movement is meeting people around the world who are in all different places of healing and expanding into their vision for birth and parenting.

I’ll never forget meeting Sarah-Jane at our Eat Pray Doula retreat in Bali. It was particularly special because Sarah-Jane was preparing to welcome her second child. We were not only able to spend a beautiful time together during our eight-day retreat, but afterwards we enjoyed many hours together as she moved through the many emotions and healing from her first birth as she prepared for her second.

I loved watching her create her incredible and supportive birth team as she prepared for a beautiful Orgasmic Birth. I’m so excited to share our special webinar – reconnecting and sharing not only her ecstatic birth story but with inspirational tips and wisdom as she is birthing forward her wisdom in some very special ways.

Seeing each person find their power in birth is an honour beyond what I have words to describe, I invite you to hear for yourself Sarah-Jane’s power of birth. ~Debra

Wolfgang Martin Winter (Wolf) was born at home on February 25th at 3:23am. This is his birth story. To start the story of Wolfgang’s birth I have to rewind a bit. In May of 2017 Wolf’s big sister, Violet was … Continued

Having an Orgasmic Birth with Renee Rodriguez Renée Rodriguez talks about her experience of pregnancy as a woman in the corporate world and how she was able to explore birth options that were as dynamic as her changing life. She … Continued

Are you ready to begin your doula practice or learn how to support your partner, friend, or family at their birth? BECOME A DOULA Download my free guide9 Steps to become a working doula [in less than 1 month] Plus, … Continued

Renée Rodriguez talks about her experience of pregnancy as a woman in the corporate world and how she was able to explore birth options that were as dynamic as her changing life. She highlights how involving sexuality throughout both of her labors transformed her state of mind and being, ultimately leading to two orgasmic births. With her stories, she aims to emphasize that you don’t need perfect conditions or a perfect pregnancy to have an orgasmic birth.

Find more resources for expectant parents: https://orgasmicbirth.thinkific.com/for-parents

Yanique Bell is a Tantric Intimacy and Empowerment Coach, also known as the Pussy Queen. She helps wild-hearted woman reclaim their pussies and unlock their sacred potential.

She got her Bachelor’s in Religion from Princeton University, where as a former pre-med student, she focused on the relationship between Religion and Science. A long-time lover of the mystical with a deep hunger for knowledge, Yanique takes an approach to healing and actualization that weaves both ancient wisdom and modern science. She’s gone from being a celibate people-pleasing Christian good-girl, someone who was “holy and broken” to a woman who is “whole and complete.” And now, she’s here to guide you deeper and deeper into YOUR personal wild.

She joined my Orgasmic Birth Practitioner Members (interested, learn more here) for a webinar and I’m excited to share a snippet of that with you today.

Are you dreaming of your birth with many swirling emotions? 
Would you like to have a safe, gentle birth with respect and love? 
Are you afraid of the pain and wondering if you can do it? 
Are you confused? 

There are so many options and stories it’s hard to know what is best.
A doula can make the difference to help you achieve the birth you desire!

Carolyn DeLucia, MD., FACOG is a board-certified OB/GYN helping women to regain their feminine empowerment through sexual wellness by solving painful sex, lack of sensation, and pleasure. She helps women to restore their confidence, reconnect with their partners and reclaim their lives. She is also the author of Ultimate Intimacy.

Dr. DeLucia shares a review of female anatomy, G-Spot, Clitoris and the effects of childbirth, menopause, and estrogen on the vaginal walls and sexual sensation.

She also shares a beautiful understanding of how our vulvas are each like a snowflake, beautiful, and unique.

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My dharma is to raise you, Harmony Riot, in the consciousness of this Essence which lives and breathes inside of you. I love you from the depths of my being and I will model to you how to love yourself above all else and then offer that love to the world 🌎

WOMBen… take your power back, reclaim your birth, you just might hold more strength than you realize… I bow to you, Namaste 🙏

Our guest, Sheila Kamara Hay shares 3 key topics birth practitioners need to know to support pleasurable birth. You’ll learn about reconnecting with your body’s wisdom, expansive pleasure, and how to have an ecstatic birth amongst the intensity that comes with labor. She calls this “Body, Bliss, and Ecstatic Birth”. If you want to watch Sheila’s full interview and other guest experts, be sure to join our wait list for our Orgasmic Birth Practitioners: https://www.orgasmicbirth.com/practitionerwaitlist

Elizabeth Clyde, the author of Pregnant and Empowered, retells her birth stories and discusses her experience as an African American millennial mother. She advises pregnant people to make birth a mental experience and to make it their own. She found the presence of mind to be a powerful, reflexive tool that is useful whether a birth experience is a marathon or a sprint. Elizabeth emphasizes the importance of advocating as the primary care for your child and explores how disparities emerge from lack of encouragement toward education. The power in birthing and nursing a child is one that should be chosen but is too often stolen away.

Regardless, I had set everything up to make sure this birth was everything I wanted. I had been suprised weeks before, on return from a rare outting, by Bodhi and Clint, who had decorated our loungeroom and from that moment on it was referred to as our birthing space. Bodhi meticulously positioned the birth pool in the exact spot it was for his birth, we had blockout curtains on every doorway, fairy lights, affirmations, crystals, diffusers, homeopathy, essential oils, blankets, towels, baby cloths, cloth nappies, GoPros and cameras set up… I wanted to spend time floating in the birth pool before birthing in there with Clint and Bodhi in the pool too, and my birth plan even listed Bodhi as one of the people to “catch the baby”. I had taken him shopping in the weeks leading up for his own mirror as he had become equally as obsessed as me with watching birthing videos and seeing the baby crown. I had an Erykah Badu playlist ready (I think she’s a Queen and FUN FACT she is a Doula; more on that at another time), I had planned everything to the T. Which oils would be in the diffuser at each stage of labour, I had premixed roller bottles with instructions of when and how to apply, I had a memo on the wall of when to call Janine and Me

After many months of struggling to conceive and with the help of fertility assistance, we were finally pregnant! I went in for an early ultrasound to make sure everything was progressing normally and then – TWINS!! The first thought that went through my head was – “oh no!!! My birth!!” Thinking I may be doomed to a medicalized hospital birth or cesarean. Little did I know I was already under the care of remarkable midwives who had vast experience supporting twin home births, so the doors of possibilities for a positive and peaceful home birth experience were still wide open to me!

Let’s talk about our Rights In Birth.

Not just those that we “expect” like quality care, and respect, but even more. It’s time to start demanding that birth is more than just another medical procedure, that it can be full of love, pleasure and power.

Today, I’m sharing with you what I call your “Pleasure Rights” in Birth.

1. You have a right to a Pleasurable Birth (SHOCKING? But I believe it’s the basis of all rights in birth.)

Share your doula story Debra loves training doulas around the world. Share your story to inspire others. Please consider when writing: Why you became a doula Why you trained with Debra What you loved about your doula training Where you … Continued

Bailey Gaddis Birth Story My labor came on strong and fast. For the first hour one contraction would roll right into the next, and I was convinced the Mexican food I had earlier that evening was wrecking havoc on my … Continued

Caroline, a Doula and birth photographer from Belgium walks us through her two different birth stories and talks about how she learned from the first to advocate throughout the second. This involved making decisions based on what felt right for her body and overall exploring her options and finding ways to make them possible. Caroline discusses the important role that movement played in her second birth and how the support of her birth “crew” felt like the final pieces coming together for her complete experience.

Michelle and Rodrigo were able to grow through the sacred experience of birth as a couple. They highlight the importance of using a doula as well as educating onesself on the options of labor and knowing what to expect. Throughout their experience they prioritized honest communication and normalizing when things don’t go according to plan. Also, their discussion of a birth ambiance featuring a neutral yet decorated safe space mentions the use of calling upon ancestry for assistance and support.

Nienke de Leeuw, a midwife of Vive, a group based in Amsterdam, talks us through her two birth stories and her discovery, exploration, and experience of orgasmic birth. She describes a transformation she took on within her role as a midwife to explore pleasure and joy in birth as a result of her own experiences and expansion of ideology. Nienke also discusses the benefits she has experienced with sensual dance and emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self love before and after pregnancy.

Reena, a Balinese midwife, moved to Belgium with her partner and gave birth to two children in a completely new culture. We got together to catch up, and she shares with me about her first and second births, the things she changed, and how she healed.
Using all of her knowledge as a midwife, her first birth experience, and her love of Bali, Reena worked to create an environment that would remind her of the comforts of her Bali home. With the help of a supportive team, Reena was able to feel confident in her second birth.

In Part V of our six-part video series with Dr. Sarah Buckley, we discuss the sexuality of childbirth. Childbirth is Sexual??  Yes, it actually is! There are so many parallels between sex and birth, and neither flow as well when … Continued

Induction of labor has become increasingly common but is not always successful because of how it differs from physiological onset of labor. The optimal number of oxytocin receptors are often not yet ready during induction which means contractions can be longer, stronger, and closer together. This hormonal gap can be closed, however, with skin to skin contact as well as breastfeeding.

Your Brain, Birth and Pleasure: Mother Nature’s Superb Design – Dr. Sarah Buckley discusses the positive feedback loop of hormones in childbirth.  Learn why birth is designed to be the best first date ever to fall in love and get ready for a lifetime of parenting.  Understand how to have an ecstatic birth,  how to set up a birth environment according to the science of our brains and why birthing a baby requires the same environment as making a baby.

This birth turned off the little voice in my head that shut down every ambition and good idea I had and turned on my self-confidence, my power, my curiosity, and erased every bit of fear I have ever had. It was a transformative moment that changed me forever. The work I did during my pregnancy, the support team I built for myself, the active role I took in my birth, it all had impacts far beyond the delivery room, and is the fuel behind my lifelong passion to improve the maternal experience.

When Birth Isn’t What You Expected: 3 Lessons by Kaitlin McGreyes Kaitlin had three very different births that reflect her journey from new mom to seasoned birthworker and advocate for women’s health. Each experience offered lessons and room for growth … Continued

Bengkung or Stagen is considered as the ancient way of healing. This product’s primary function for the postnatal mother is to make the mother feel warm and comfortable.

Is there something going on that you know you must address, as Debra did?

Is this your wake up call?

Debra has decided to do another 30 Day Transformation in January and we are excited to invite you to learn more about what’s involved as you design your pleasurable 2021.

Join us December 16th at 1pm PT | 4pm ET to an intimate Zoom with Debra and I, where we will share more about our journeys and how this nutrition may support you. Here’s the link. We look forward to midwifing you along the path of transforming your health.

by Naomi In February I gave birth to our second daughter, Nirvana Freya Lee. I was alone when she arrived and received her into my arms myself. It was a powerful and sacred moment. Here’s how her amazing birth unfolded… … Continued

Our home birth was so amazing, I keep going over the events in my mind, hoping to remember every little detail. It was three months ago now, and I still get goosebumps.

by Nena Complo When you were almost here, about ready to emerge I knelt upon my bed, and fell into deep prayer To you I told you about everyone in the room, loving you and waiting for you I confided … Continued

by Alejandra Lozano, LCCE, Midwife, Orgasmic Birth Community Manager Since the birth of her son Mariano, she became passionate about birth, and began her preparation to become a professional and traditional midwife, with the intention that more women have the … Continued

October is Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month. About one in four pregnancies ends in pregnancy loss. For many people this can be an emotional process, and it is important that they receive care in a setting that is comfortable and safe.

Amy Wright Glenn, the Founder of The Institute for Birth, Breathe and Death has a special, limited time offer for you to expand your knowledge in supporting families around loss.

You are the expert on your body and your baby! Your care providers should be like lifeguards there to help you when you need assistance, but otherwise they sit quietly in the corner as you navigate the gentle waters, giving you the privacy and safety you need to experience the intimacy and joy of childbirth.

How do you begin to prepare for an Orgasmic Birth?

I had these intense and close-knit contractions for over 14 hours, and now comes the surprising thing about my case: Those uterine contractions were completely painless to me.

Despite the stupefaction of the nurses and the gynecologist who attended me, my uterine contractions were completely painless …

On multiple occasions they offered me epidural anesthesia, I always rejected it. I felt no pain at all.

What was going on in my uterus? For a time I thought that I might have some kind of special sensitivity to pain. But later I found out that it wasn’t that at all.

I was overdue and went to Red Tent for acupuncture induction. Five days later I had the most amazing birth experience.

My partner and I were at the beach all day walking and resting as I was experiencing the gentle beginning of contractions.

I want to share with you the 4 ways that breastfeeding impacts you and your relationship that you won’t find in all the searches!

You have become a mother/parent. Life has changed, you have changed, and so has your body. The sooner you learn to love the new you, the many benefits you, your partner your baby will see and feel.

Are you so consumed with thinking about birthing your baby that the thoughts of parenting seem far in the distance?

Prepare your roadmap for fun and sex now. Why your birth matters.

I honor and celebrate you! You have become (or are about to become) a parent. You are doing the most important job in the world to shape the next generation with your love and parenting.

I remember when I first became a parent and wondered why there is no preparation for parenting that includes all the changes you will experience in your relationship and sexuality.

I couldn’t find any book that honored this aspect of the major life transition of parenting.

There was nothing out there that celebrated mothers, and all birthing people, and our new and changed bodies.

Childbirth is a portal of self-knowledge and connection, and motherhood is a channel for the present. I was studying postmodern midwifery at the Da-a-Luz school, Andalucía, Spain, in a community very focused on women, nature and alternative ways of living. Most of the people there live in trailers, caravans and tents; they spend most of the day outside and live very closely with their neighbors. The school’s classes take place in a vagina-shaped building, and we study inside the womb. After having spent 5 years using IUDs, and 4 of them without menstruating, it was a huge reconnection with my feminine to know this school and these people: to live with women planting their menstrual blood, holding women’s circles, singing at the fire and bathing in the river. After the first year at school, I got pregnant by my partner Elijah, and we decided to give birth there.

Join Debra Pascali-Bonaro and Carlita Singletary as they talk about community doulas, life lessons learned and what being a doula means for you and your clients. 

Join our Pleasurable Birth Essentials Online Class to Positively Prepare for your Birth!

“I knew this birth would be different from Odyns, from all that came in between, and it was my second baby after all, but I don’t think I could’ve seen this. Since around December 12 I’d been having start and stop contractions and felt like labor would come at any time. Of course the next weeks were torture because nothing ever came of any of it…”

El nacimiento de Mariano, el día que pari mi cuerpo.

Desde el momento en que supe que estaba embarazada todo mi pensamiento se fue a investigar el proceso, los cambios que sucederían, el desarrollo de mi bebé y el parto, lo que mas me intrigaba era el tema de la epidural, le tenia una especie de terror a esa intervención… no había a quien preguntarle mas que a mi mamá que decía que no era para tanto, seguí investigando hasta que encontré la opción del parto en agua en Monterrey, Nuevo León, México, lo que me llevo a encontrar cursos de preparación para el parto (me sirvieron muchísimo) y fue donde encontré a mi partera, en ese momento mi vida cambio totalmente, estaba decidida a tener un parto en casa (y a convertirme en partera), no había otra opción posible en mi cabeza, así tendría que ser, a costa de lo que fuera.

I began moaning and doing my best to keep the sound flowing, as it seemed to help me stay afloat. With my knees on the floor and my arms gripping the pillows tightly in front of me, my body was in control. I attempted to quiet my mind and began rocking back and forth now, as opposed to side to side like I’d done while standing. I kept thinking about how I should try to perceive the sensations as interesting instead of painful. Some of the time, I found I was able to flow through part of a contraction as though I were simply witnessing an intense feeling, observing a wild ride that my body was on. Though, much of the time, I was experiencing it as the most intense pain I’ve ever felt, only comparable to the birth of my son.

Interestingly, Daddy and I had only very recently had a conversation about having another baby. About how, after being told that it was unlikely that we would have children naturally and trying for three and a half years for Indi, we felt incredibly blessed and completely accepting of the fact that we may only have one child.

Clearly you had other ideas about that!

Indi and I went for a walk to the pharmacy and that night, after she was asleep and without thinking to tell Daddy about my suspicions, I did the pregnancy test. I was so shocked at the positive result that I couldn’t speak and just went downstairs and showed it to Papa. Understandably, he was a little confused about the situation, and it took a few minutes for what he was seeing to sink in.

We sat and held one another for quite a long time while we let the news soak in. What a truly wonderful Christmas gift. I did have one concern though: how on earth was I going to find the same amount of love for another baby, that I had for your sister? Was my capacity to love that great?

Apart from nausea and some extra tiredness until I was around 14 weeks pregnant, early pregnancy was fairly uneventful with you! The biggest challenge for me was breastfeeding your sister through the intensely sensitive nipples I had during those first weeks! My pregnancy was busy, healthy and active and the months whizzed by. Naturally, we planned a home birth for you.