Exploring where your beliefs originated about your body and your sexuality is an important aspect to understanding what truly serves you and what view, values and restrictions you maybe putting on yourself that not only don’t serve you but also might not even be true.
Women’s sexuality has been something that has had many different opinions and values through history and has been influenced by translations of religious doctrine into ways that may not hold the original intention. Gender roles and beliefs that men are more sexual than women have been proven wrong as women can crave and enjoy sex us much as man MEN. Our relationship to our Sexuality and desires is individual rather than gender, yet media still often shows gender roles with sex in different ways, contributing to the blur of what women really want and can experience if all the barriers that are imposed beginning as young girls are lifted.
What messages did you receive as a young child about your sexuality?
How did religion or culture shape your views about pleasure and sex?
Do you believe there is a right or wrong way to engage in sexuality?
What aspects of your sexuality are you comfortable with?
Are there aspects you would like to improve?
If these questions challenge you and you want to go deeper to look at sex within culture, religion and enjoy a modern day true version of Fifty Shades of Grey, you will find Lauren Brim’s “The New Rules of SEX” enticing. Lauren’s shares her research about religion, culture, good girls, sluts, in between her own sexual stories that will keep you reading and thinking about your first sexual encounters and wanting more as she helps you to define what it means to be a sexual woman today.
Now let’s move to “Birth and Sex,” the title of Sheila Kitzinger book and a topic that our film and book Orgasmic Birth discuss and uncover thru an intimate looks at birth as a part of a woman’s sexuality…. It is no wonder with the many restrictions on women’s sexuality that we have literally masked the sexuality of birth with drapes, hospital gowns, silencing women’s sounds and moans with drugs, and stripping all aspects of sex away otherwise how could we treat birth and women as we do? If you consider birth as a part of your sexual life what do you need to be respected, nurtured and have your sexuality honored in childbirth? Ask yourself if birth was considered by all as a part of a woman’s sexual life, what would we do differently. I will get us started…. we would create privacy and caregivers would ask permission to enter the room.
Please share you ideas for what would we do differently- privacy is one but what do you need to be respected, nurtured and have your sexuality honored in childbirth?